Woman kicks ex-best friend out of her life when friend uses terrible excuse to justify getting proposed to at her wedding: ‘She's a vile human being’

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Feb 24, 2025 11:00 PM EST

Weddings are for the couple. Repeat it after me. Weddings are for the couple and are for nobody else. Most wedding-goers understand this… that's why none of them wear white, announce their pregnancies, or get proposed to during the wedding reception. However, this is most wedding-goers. Not all. This brings us to the audacious, entitled person in the story you're about to read…

The woman who posted this story is to be wed after finding out her father is terminally ill. The wedding is a celebration of her matrimony with her fiancé, but also a celebration for her father who she expects to pass soon. The woman's best friend (Maid of Honor) expects the woman to be okay with her friend's partner proposing to her at her wedding, but the woman politely refuses to let this happen. Instead of being understanding, the friend (ex-friend now) mentions her father's illness, claiming it doesn't really matter. Scroll to see how this situation unfolds.

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  • I know I said that weddings are only for the couple, but in this case, her celebration of love is also for her father. This wedding, which she considers a bit rushed, means a lot to her because it means a lot to her father. The woman wants to make the most of every moment now that her father has a ticking clock, but the woman's best friend refuses to let go of her entitlement to let her have her day. 

  • "I no longer want this girl in my life, let alone the wedding."
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  • "Am I being a bridezilla by asking my best friend’s partner to not propose at my wedding?"

    I get married in April. We got engaged at Christmas, but in January by dad was given 5 months max after being taken off Chemo for it not working.
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  • I will preface this by saying I never wanted the big white wedding. I am not a fan of being the centre stage, etc. My best friend (26F) of 14+ years, is the polar opposite of me. My partner
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  • and I have been super busy with work, so have allowed my parents to plan the wedding (his parents are out the country on holibobs but have had input). My dad
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  • wanted a bigger celebration as this will be the last chance he gets to celebrate. I am obviously heartbroken and want to give him exactly what he wants. I chose my bridesmaids and my partner chose his best man / groomsmen.
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  • My best friend is one of my bridesmaids and my niece is my other. My bestie from day 1 of being asked has been finding dresses - not a problem. I've said all along I just want them to feel -
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  • comfortable so to wear what they want (I am paying). Some of the dresses were questionable, but I honestly didn't have the heart to tell her. Men's suits were all chosen and everyone was happy.
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  • A little side note here - my parents have never been a fan of my bestie - they think she's an attention seeker and "a bit of a tart". They accepted my choice because they know I love her to bits.
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  • Last week when we went to see my bestie - she had a baby recently so love going to see bubba - she was saying "I think (her partner - let's call him Paul) Paul is going to propose at
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  • your wedding" and getting all excited. She kept saying how she wanted it to be a perfect proposal and we have the perfect venue. That is true- the venue is stunning.
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  • On the way home from seeing her, I was talking to my partner and said that I didn't want him to propose at the wedding, as we were already celebrating a wedding and my beautiful daddy,
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  • and didn't want to take away from that. I reached out and tried to explain this to bestie. Her reply "if you are going to be a bridezilla, I don't want to be part of your rushed wedding. If you can't
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  • stand other people getting attention you're really pathetic - and need to get over yourself". Here I will input - partner and I have been together 4 years, her and partner have been together 1
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  • year. (NOT that this is any sort of competition). But here is where I may be the bridezilla / AHole. My response "I'm truly sorry you feel like I've been a bridezilla / AHole, I've tried to be accommodating
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  • and as free willed as possible. You've had your choice of dress, shoes, hair, make up, accessories - which we're all paid for by me, and we have accommodated bringing your baby (which of
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  • course we would as we love you). You know I don't like major attention but this is my family, my friends and they're coming to our wedding. If you're so desperate for the attention on you - perhaps
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  • it's best you're not there. I'm sorry that this hasn't working out, I'm truly heartbroken. But this day needs to be perfect for my daddy". Her last response, I didn't respond: "your dad's gonna di he won't even be here to give a s t". I
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  • I don't mind losing her over this, but I'm heartbroken and now thinking I may have been a bridezilla.
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  • EDIT - I thought I'd update as a few common points; 1. I no longer want this girl in my life, let alone the wedding. She's a vile human being.
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  • 2. I have always been that one girl she gets at, I've never had much luck making friends, so I think that's why I've always accepted treatment.
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  • 3. Partner hates her and has hated her since they met. 4. I AM GONNA SEND A MESSAGE AND BLOCK! She's done! (I'm not sure how to share SS's but I'll work it out
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  • Both Reading1229 NTA, NTBridezilla protect your Dad's peace and enjoyment of the day AT ALL COSTS!!! Disinvite this person who can't seem to understand somethings aren't about them.
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  • Quirky-Chick1968 I'm sorry, but she's already seeing herself out. You have already lost her. Take advice from an old married lady. This woman is not your bestie. She is selfish and only cares about herself and her wants. A real best friend would only care about you on YOUR DAY! Dump her and get a new maid of honor.
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